i would be last person on earth to say that i have all the answers about relationships. because, clearly, i dont. but i am human, and lets face it, im me, so i do have my own opinions on everyone elses. and lately, a dear friend of mine has been the thought on everyones mind. so naturally, its my turn to state my _opinion_. first of all, i love her dearly. i dont tell her often enough, and i do even less im afraid that shows it. and everyone seems to have a problem with her boyfriend. and everyone, including myself, just wants her to be happy. of course we think shes not. how can she be. but that is ultimately up to her to decide. our own idealistic makings for happiness arent necessarily hers. because we couldnt be happy in those circumstances, doesnt mean she cant be. she should be entitled to that. if he is what makes her happy, truly happy, then my god, i could ask nothing else for her. but sadly, i think he falls short. yes, i think hes with her for the 'trophy' appeal. yes, i think hes arrogant. yes, i think he says things that he has NO business saying. yes, i think he knowingly trys to buy her love. yes, i think hes smarter than the average bear. but i dont think she is given enough credit. i think she knows it too. and here is why i dont say much regarding it. first, i think shes okay with it. i think shes ok with being well taken care of. i think she loves having someone that can provide her with a lifetime of gifts and belongings. i think that the things that money can buy is what keeps her there. shes not shallow. or greedy. but shes comfortable. and without him, i think shed feel lost. and i think shes terrified of feeling lost. now that brings me to the second thing. i worry that shes not ok with it, but doesnt think she can do any better. which is where we step in. cause if shes not ok, and just feels like this is her last attempt at a successful life, then its our job to show her things shes blind to. this girl is beautiful, and amazing, and genuine to the core. we think shes selling herself short by being with a man we know does not make her happy. but regardless, what we think of him, or their lives together, im not her. she has to do what is best for her. im not involved for me. i dont need to sway her to see things my way. i just want her to know, that above all, we love her enough to know how much more she really deserves.